Nine years ago my husband retired, and we were surprised by the differences that began to occur in our relationship. We probably imagined that there would be some adjustments, but we didn’t expect quite as many. So I began a quest to figure out why this was happening.
The primary source of my information came from interviews with generous retirees who shared their experiences. From them I learned that most every couple faces steep adjustments while adapting to one another’s quirks on a daily basis. The similarities in their struggles were eye-opening. Wives fretted over husbands being at home all the time. Husbands worried over how they would spend their days—and often decided to rearrange the household. Wives resented their partner’s critiquing household routines and felt restricted when he depended on her for entertainment. Husbands had difficulty understanding her discomfort over the above situations.
At first, I was surprised by the commonality of retirement adjustment concerns, but the more I learned, the more I saw them as reality. Some of the information I heard or read made me sad. Some surprised me, and other reports made me laugh.
Perhaps the most important thing I realized through my research is that humor is the best healer of many annoyances. When we are angry or bothered about some action of our partner, the most effective thing we can do is to find something to laugh about and the following jewel should definitely give you something to laugh about. It arrived in an email from a friend so I cannot tell you where it originated.
I hope it will add some laughter to your life, and you might find it interesting to see how often we think like so many of our peers.
Story from a Women’s Seminar
A group of 12 women were at a seminar on how to live in a loving relationship with their husbands. The women were asked,
“How many of you love your husband?” All the women raised their hands.
Then they were asked, “When is the last time you told your husband you loved him?” Some women answered today, a few answered yesterday and some couldn’t remember.
The women were then told to take out their cellphones and text their husband “I love you, sweetheart.”
Next the women were instructed to exchange phones with another woman and read aloud the text message they received in response to their message.
Below are 12 actual replies from their husbands. If you have been married for quite a while, you understand that these replies are a sign of true love.
Who else would reply in such a succinct and honest way?
- Who the hell is this?
- Hey, mother of my children, are you sick or what?
- Yeah and I love you too. What’s wrong?
- What now? Did you wreck the car again?
- I don’t understand what you mean?
- What the hell did you do now?
- Are you sure this is for me?
- Don’t beat about the bush; just tell me how much you need?
- Am I dreaming?
- If you don’t tell me who this message is actually for, someone will die.
- I thought we agreed you wouldn’t drink during the day.
- Your mother is coming to stay with us, isn’t she?
According to Jimmy Buffet, “If we couldn’t laugh we would just go insane.”
From his song, Changes in Attitudes, Changes in Latitudes