laughing dogThe words “Valentine’s Day” evoke images of flowers, chocolate and romantic, candle-lit dinners. But when I asked my Facebook friends how they observe the day, I got a surprising variety of responses:

The first, from a happily married pal, was unabashedly smug:

I plan to brush up on my schandenfreude.

Followed quickly by this lament from a single friend:

I just try to ignore the whole thing.

Indeed, being single on Valentine’s Day can be challenging. So what will my un-partnered pals be up to on this annual celebration of Happy Coupledom?

I always wear black.

I’d be hiding under the bed until it all blows over.

I just pretend it’s already the 15th.

Take Out. Done! (So I don’t have to be tormented by  all the happy couples.)

As my friends continued to comment, one thing became quite clear. It’s great to be happily coupled on Valentine’s Day:

Chocolate, flowers and bubbly for us!

My hubby always picks up a bottle – or two – of champagne. With flowers and candy of course.

We spend a quiet evening in our garden and celebrate our enduring lover as the sun is setting. It’s really lovely!

Even so, one happily-married friend seems to be afflicted by Valentine Phobia:

I usually spend the day waiting for February 15. I love my husband but for some reason I’ve always hated Valentine’s Day. (Maybe in my youth I experienced a traumatic class party?)

And I truly hope this pal was just kidding around:

Instead of going through the drive through, on Valentine’s Day I bring my beloved right into the MacDonalds, where we dine in style.

I’m inspired by the folks who have creatively repurposed this celebration of romantic love:

On Valentine’s Day I always host a Mother/Daughter Tea Party. It’s a beautiful event, often with one or more families represented by three or four generations. A celebration of love, but of a different kind.

On Valentine’s Day my husband and I deliver flowers to local widows, a tradition we started one year after a dear friend had passed. While my hubby was at the florist buying me flowers, on an impulse he also bought flowers for our recently widowed friend. We always deliver them in secret. Sadly, we’ve had to add more deliveries to the list each year. But it is so rewarding to spread some joy.

I’ve never been romantic, so I’ll order a useful farm animal for a third world family from Heifer International in honor of my sweetie. “Roses are Red/Violets Are Blue/I love you so much/Here’s a llama for you.”

How ever you choose to celebrate, I hope your Valentine’s Day is wonderful.

(Roz Warren  is the author of Our Bodies, Our Shelves: Library Humor and Just Another Day At Your Local Public Library, both of which makes great Valentine’s Day gifts for librarians and other book lovers) 

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