Pamela Madsen
I think that there is a new snobbery a foot. It’s “sex snobbery”. It is showing up everywhere, and in the most subtle (and not so subtle) ways.
How about we agree not to “YUCK each others YUM?”
No one’s sexual or gender expression is superior to anyone else’s. Sexuality is unique, and everyone’s relationship with sexuality, gender, and romance is special. Just because we share the knowledge that we both enjoy a particular sex toy doesn’t mean that we will experience it the same way.
No one can feel an erotic feeling or emotion tied to sexuality… just the way you do. All of our feelings, and how we process experiences, are uniquely our own. And all of this “Sex Snobbery” can be really hard when people want others to “give them an experience” and “get it right”.
Let’s take it to the bedroom!
So, if we can agree that all of our relationships to sexuality is unique – how do we go about creating a better relationship with sex leaving all of that sex snobbery behind?
1. Prepare for change. Decide that you are ready to change your relationship with your own sexuality. Acknowledge that you feel like there is something missing, a problem, a disconnect. Acknowledge that you want to feel more than you are currently feeling.
2. Choose to make a change with your relationship with your own sexuality. If you are in a partnered relationship you may choose to speak with your partner about your desires for change. If you are not in a partnered sexual relationship you may begin by opening the conversation with yourself about what you feel you are missing and wanting. You may choose to seek the help of a sexuality coach or sign up for a program created to support people explore their sexuality.
3. Keep the yuck out of the yum- lower your sexually enlightened nose a notch or two. It will certainly be more becoming.