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Forging an Adult Relationship with my Daughter

Liz Kurkjian-Henry
‘She’s such a bitch.’             ‘Everything I say annoys her.’             ‘Nothing I do is right.’             ‘She’s only nice to me when she needs money.’             ‘What happened to my sweet little girl?’ Do these laments sound familiar?  They do to me because at some point since my daughter, Britt, went to college, graduated and  moved to New York City  I have uttered each one. But over the past twelve years I have found myself lamenting less and enjoying her more. Why? Did she change? Or did I? A bit of both but weighted much more heavily on me.  I’m not sure if it was a conscious decision but I think this complaining about my adult daughter diminished when I started to view her for what she is in that order: ADULT then DAUGHTER. Once I changed my perspective to treat her as an adult first, my daughter second, our relationship became much less strained and tenuous. ...
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Felice Shapiro

Women In Our Prime Begins At 60

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Don Lemon got slammed by his clueless comment about women in their prime on air and is now undergoing formal training. CNN’s chairman, Chris Licht, said … that [anchor Don Lemon] “has agreed to participate in formal training” after making on-air comments widely regarded as sexist. — New York Times, Feb. 20, 2023.  What the hell is formal training?   Whaaaaat! Women in their 60's know that Don Lemon got it wrong by 2 decades. Yes we know that in our bones! But frankly we aren't going to worry about Don's insensitivity because that's how he feels and that may never change and we are tuning out...bye bye Don. You know why? ...
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Was Too Much Television Bad for Me?

Jenna Gruen
Throughout the pandemic, I had many conversations with friends and family about our coping skills during lockdown. Some ate more.  Some drank more.  Some hiked more.  Some sat on the couch more, and some read more.  For myself, I turned to something that I’m really good at – watching TV.  It’s a skill I’ve been honing since I was a child....
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Ginny Poleman

“You Are Loved, Damnit!” A Lesson From The Universe For This Single Divorcée

Ginny Poleman
Last month, I borrowed my ex-husband’s car to visit my son, daughter-in-law, and their little guy (read about becoming a grandmother here). As soon as I arrived at the parking garage, the attendant said, “I’m sorry, but the car’s dead.” My ex immediately answered the phone when I called, arranged for a jump, and said, “call me along the way.” He called me while I was driving, “everything okay? Call me when you get there.” Pleased that he was concerned, I thought he was being dramatic. “I fine. I’m will.” But I never got there. The car wouldn’t restart at the rest stop forty-five minutes from my destination. My ex gave me the info I needed to get the car on the road again and where to drop it off. “Call me if you have any problems.” My bestie, Sonia, sat on the phone with me until the car service showed up. Finally, on my way back into the city, I held my breath, clenched my butt cheeks, and drove the ninety-minute ride feeling sorry for myself. I missed feeling taken care of by my husband like he did so many years ago. I knew I didn’t want to be married to him, but then damnit, why am I crying?...
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Lead and Cadmium Could Be in Your Dark Chocolate – Consumer Reports

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There’s a dark side to this “healthier” chocolate. Research has found that some dark chocolate bars contain cadmium and lead—two heavy metals linked to a host of health problems in children and adults. The chocolate industry has been grappling with ways to lower those levels. To see how much of a risk these favorite treats pose, Consumer Reports scientists recently measured the amount of heavy metals in 28 dark chocolate bars. They detected cadmium and lead in all of them. Consumer Reports found dangerous heavy metals in chocolate from Hershey's, Theo, Trader Joe's, and other popular brands. Here are the ones that had the most, and some that are safer....
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