For some people, getting married is often a grand day filled with loved ones, nice dresses, and plenty of excitement. For others, getting married is just a tradition that some people follow. After divorce, deciding whether or not to get married can be a tough decision to make. Some people want to spend the rest of their life with someone new, while others want to take time for themselves. Here are a few things to consider before you say I Do (again).
Why go through with it?
Before you run out to get the cushion cut engagement ring, think long and hard about why you want to go through with it. Do you believe that being married makes your relationship stronger or shows just how committed you are? If so, that’s a good reason and you should go through with it. If you simply aren’t sure why you’re getting married if you’re already happy with that person and the way things are now, then maybe marriage isn’t really the right thing to do.
Where to live?
At this point in your life, you have a stable living condition that you likely enjoy. Should you get married, where will you live? Will one of you move into the other’s place or will you buy something new together? If buying new, is this a financial risk you can afford to make, especially if you may be considering retirement soon? Be sure to talk with your partner about this so that you’re each on the same page before you make any life-changing decisions.
In addition, you’ll also want to consider “roommates”. For instance, if one or both of you have adult children currently living with you, you’ll need to decide if these family members will continue living with you after the wedding or if you will force them to move out on their own.
Are there healthcare benefits?
After 50, your healthcare becomes even more important than it was years ago. If you get married, will one of you be getting better health coverage through the other individual? Would it make more sense for each of you to keep your own health insurance? Try to determine if there are benefits to each other for tying the knot.
What type of ceremony will there be?
If you’ve already had the big wedding, chances are you may not want to go through it again. Talk with your partner and determine the type of ceremony you’d want to have and how much it will cost. Will you do a nice small gathering of friends and family in your home, or will you rent out a local restaurant or hall? Who will you invite? There are a lot of questions to answer, so be sure you have answers to all those that are important.
Getting married after 50 is a big decision, especially when you’ve already been married once before. Make sure you think about this decision before you go through with it, and ensure you’re making the decision that you truly feel in your heart.