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HOW TO START FEELING CONFIDENT, WORTHY, AND RELEVANT AGAIN

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Have you ever felt irrelevant? No matter the past and circumstances that are swirling around you right now ā€“ have you ever felt THAT? How do you validate your relevance? Whoā€™s there to judge? The truth is, no matter how worthless I feel, no matter how worthless you feel too, we were placed here for a damn good reason! A good reason indeed. Think about it for a second. Tell your sh**ty thoughts that tell you otherwise to shut the hell up! Think about your relevance. Read more by Lesya Li...
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Confessions of a People-Pleasing Addict From Trauma Therapist Rythea Lee

Rythea Lee
Giving up the addiction of people-pleasing creates a crisis. Severe childhood trauma cannot be stuffed forever, can it? Not in my case.My entire sense of self is undergoing a massive renovation and the new look is ugly. My Father was so violent, my Mother so absent, that I was born a workaholic. Watch, listen, and learn; that took every bit of my brain power. I did not let down. Did not rest. Did not ā€œget to know myself.ā€ I got to knowĀ themĀ endlessly, and that was my very best strategy. It wasnā€™t just about observation; it was also about fixing the problem. ...
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Tattoos: Never Say Never, Even After 60

Marcia Byalick
I grew up in a world that was divided into two kinds of people: those who had tattoos and those who were afraid of people with tattoos. In the movies, prisoners and gang members, carnival workers and criminals had them. They marked reckless, defiant outsidersā€¦tribal members with a shady moral compass. Ā Nazis tattooed people. End of story. Then in the 70s, the stigma dimmed a bit. Fashionable, creative, adventurous celebrities like Cher, Peter Fonda and Janis Joplin displayed their ink. The chests and arms of those ā€œin the serviceā€ in Viet Nam showed their proud affiliation. For the first time, although far from my thing, I saw tattoos as an indicator of something relevant to a personā€™s individual story, a canvas of their experiences....
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Self-Discovery Through Deadlifting

Peg Conway
A few months ago, I became a grandma, and Iā€™m proud to say that I can safely rise from the floor while holding my granddaughter. I also grew my hair out to its natural silvery gray. Now I resemble that vibrant older woman I envisioned five years ago when I began deadlifting. In this elder stage of life, deep core strength grounds me in myself, fully present to the here and now, which is where I want to be....
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Friends to the Bitter End

Martha Joy Rose
The audience is riled up, rocking its way towards midnight. I am standing on the stage with a microphone in my hand. The band plays behind me. I shout out over the noise, eager to keep going. ā€œI donā€™t look sick, do I?ā€ I ask, shaking my head and nodding to the crowd. ā€œNo, no, no,ā€ they shout back. Turning to my keyboard player, signaling for her to begin the intro, ā€œOne, two, three,ā€ I count, as my fingers strum guitar strings. I have been performing my entire adult life. Now, standing in the club, aptly titled The Bitter End, I have bargained my way out of the hospital to perform this gig....
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My Solo Fling with a Mediterranean Playboy

Corinne Kovalsky
It was a blustery August day in Marseille. The view overlooking the Mediterranean was dramatic. The waves crashed against the rocks, mere feet below my table. I chose Restaurant Peron because it was extensively featured in famed author Peter Mayleā€™s Caper series. The four books ran the gamut from vintage wine theft and unsolvable diamond heists to the influx of Russians along the French Riviera, and a real estate deal gone bad....
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No Downside To Being An Optimist

Marcia Byalick
At 10:00 on the night before Thanksgiving, two nurses walked into my room to say, without a trace of panic, that the ninth floor had to be evacuated to prepare for an influx of COVID patients. All seventeen of us were immediately to be transported to the fourth floor. Calmly and efficiently it took them ten minutes to maneuver my bed, my IV, and all my belongings thrown on top of the blanket, through silent hallways and down two elevators to my new room....
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Dementia: Writing the Story Now You May Never Hear

Robin Storey
Iā€™ll never forget the moment I found out my motherā€™s diagnosis. ā€˜Your mother has the classic symptoms of Alzheimerā€™s,ā€™ the geriatric psychiatrist said. I wish I had encouraged Mum to tell me more about her life and recorded her stories. Robin Storey is a ghostwriter specializing in life stories and memoirs....
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Everyone Knows Memory Fails as You Age. But Everyone Is Wrong.

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In Case You Missed It....You'll want to read this great piece on memory from the NYT. "Iā€™m 62 years old as I write this. Like many of my friends, I forget names that I used to be able to conjure up effortlessly. When packing my suitcase for a trip, I walk to the hall closet and by the time I get there, I donā€™t remember what I came for."...
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