was thinking this was going to be a stellar day — it started out with a Santa Dance at my local Expresso Love coffee shop in Edgartown. A little boy watched and clapped as my pup and I danced and then he said,
“I have a present for your dog.”
He pulled his hat out of his backpack and with the sweetest smile he held the hat up to give to little LULU."
"I want to give this to your dog."
I wanted to hug that child but have been trained not to these past 2 years - however, he totally melted me.
“Your child is the poster child for Christmas Spirit — who gives their hat away -- and it's a really cold day? That is precious and priceless.”
Lulu and I gratefully thanked the 4 year old and his Mom and we were all in the best of moods.
And then the taxi arrived and we headed to Martha’s Vineyard Airport.
There was no one there but two lovely greeters behind the Cape Air desk.
“Are we the only 2 people going to JFK?”
“Wait is your dog going with you, because if it is — you aren’t going...
Attention Better After 50 women -- are you a worrier? Do you or a loved one you know suffer with anxiety? Well you are not alone.
Women in their 50's and 60's are worrying. That's a fact. And, according to Lynn Lyons, it's normal. But the way we worry, ruminate, our patterns of how we deal with our anxiety, has been embedded over the years. In her new book The Anxiety Audit, Lynn talks about identifying our patterns and how to shift them. Lynn's book is incredibly helpful for those of us who are worriers.
Women over 50 know their roles are changing and we need to pivot. The tools we used as the key player in our families requires new strategies. Lynn's techniques for dealing with anxiety and worry and RPN, repetitive negative thinking, are simple to understand and incredibly helpful.
Please listen in to my interview with Lynn and share with those you love and hopefully this will be helpful to you.
Felice Shapiro In Conversation With Author Lynn Lyons...
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Here's what happened....
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