They took forever to get here, then they weren't enough, then they flourished and nourished. And then, when I had forgotten I even had them, they reminded me, life was worth it because I could feel again. A Breast Perspective in 3 parts....
“After 50 years old, you should never have sex on top,” my girlfriend quoted her mother.
“Why not?” I cried out. “I love it on top!”
“I know, but Mom preached, ‘You don’t want your big old breasts hanging in his face,’” she said wagging her scolding finger.
I hadn’t really visualized what my “girls” might look like from HIS perspective. It occurred to me that if I hovered over his face low enough, I could probably smother him to death with my bottom-heavy, pendulous pillows.
Always looking for a solution to continue to do what feels good, I asked, “What if I wore a pretty bra?”...
It has been over five years now since the end of treatment, and the whole experience seems like a nightmare that happened to someone else. I have truly put it in a box in my mind that opens shortly before my annual mammogram, and then closes again. Since that time, my husband and I moved onto our sailboat and lived a life full of adventure. I have short silver hair that I love. And when I look in the mirror, I am still just fine with my boobs. It is still that extra 10-15 pounds on my ass and hips that I hate....
Covid fatigue is a bear. Despite the camaraderie of our writing group we were running flat after 2 years of weekly 2 hour sessions. "How do we get re-inspired and re-motivated," was the burning question. And, as the group's leader, I was charged with the personal challenge to find a way to wake us all up.
So this Tuesday's writing group meeting started with a cry for help. "Hey guys, is anyone having a hard time focusing lately?" They all nodded in agreement. "Ok, ok," I was starting to feel my pulse again, "Me too. So let's try this...( I was grasping at anything at this point).......
For several years now my three best friends and I have shared a text leaderboard that tracks our daily New York Times mini crossword times….and now it’s about Wordle! ...
That was precisely when it happened, my authentic Oprah Winfrey a-ha moment. At 52, I wanted out of our poisonous, youth-obsessed beauty culture, illusionary at best but more often unapologetically deceptive. Images offered as “effortless” in magazines and social media seductively and insidiously pulverize female self-esteem to a microfine powder which fails its promise to illuminate. I wanted my money back.
I credit my savvy and self-confident teenage daughter Kate for rousing me from idiocy. It was a Sunday morning, and with a keen eye, I scrutinized online offerings...
In these disorienting times I feel like I’m holding all this emotion in my body with nowhere to put it. There was actually a study where healthy adults were monitored for how often they hugged. Then they were quarantined and intentionally infected with a cold virus. Those who received more hugs had less severe disease. Counterintuitive, no? That those who receive more hugs are somehow more protected from infection? Maybe if CVS dispensed comforting hugs.......
There is something truly scientific going on here as we move into our 3rd winter of discontent. There's something that the historians and scientists will have a go at in a few years, but as of now we have to muck through the reality of this winter.
Don't get me wrong, I'm grateful. My gratitude list is huge but we humans are not meant to live like this. What is the Darwinian side of isolation? Who wins? Maybe only Tony Robbins' disciples win. ...
I was thrilled when Robin Finn, published author and writing teacher and founder of Heart Soul Pen reached out to me to talk about putting together a writing ...
During the holidays, many families suffer from estrangement. This is not a new issues but seems to be getting more attention because of social media trends. T...
"The holidays shouldn't be a time to recharge. They should be a time to celebrate."
So wrote Adam Grant, organizational psychologist and best-selling author,...
In her TED Talk Making Stress your Friend, health psychologist Kelly McGonigal suggests how we can reframe our relationship with stress. “When you change you...
Thanksgiving will be like no other because of last Thanksgiving. This year many of us dare to gather but we cannot forget what we lived through just one Thanksgiving ago. And that remembrance makes this Thanksgiving all the more special.
Most of us are going to gather despite the rising rates of Covid, because it's time for us to be together again. We are ready to celebrate and be hopeful.
The simple act of gathering has taken on new meaning. The gathering is the grand prize of this Thanksgiving....
"When are we leaving? It's already mid-October and we are the only ones on our street who are still here." My husband has been ready move on from our island home of almost 6 months and back on the mainland of life.
"Wow, really, you're ready? I have so many writing projects. I'm starting my Podcast. I will get distracted by life if I leave here. It's so cozy and quiet here. I can think here. All the tourists have left. I love it."
"You mean you just want to stay for another month or two?"
"That would be awesome." What a gem of a guy I think.
"Nope, that's not gonna happen."
"Holy, shit he's really ready."...
"Hurricane Henri is predicted to arrive early Sunday," I said to my kids.
Be careful Mom they chimed in from the other coast.
I'm so excited. I don't care if Henri isn't well behaved. He's invited, and we will be ready. "I can't wait, I wish you were here. ("OMG, I'm so annoying, I have to stop saying I wish you were here -- but I laugh to myself, since they can't come at least Henri is coming")
Guest Henri requires some prep. We prefer a short stay but hope he's not too irritable. I fill the car with groceries, batteries, grab the last flash light from the drugstore and wonder about that bad decision to NOT spring for the generator....
The research, tracking thousands of people from age 50 on, suggests those who sleep six hours or less a night are more likely to develop dementia in their late ...
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While always taking care of your health, can there be dating and love after COVID? Absolutely. The following actions will help lead you out of your PJs, into the fresh air, and into a world that waits to know you. If you stick with it, you’ll find your partner out there who is looking for you too....
At times, I barely recognize the former me. A slow drip or should I say an injection of hope is on the horizon as the vaccine rolls out and into the arms of friends and family but in the meantime......
I wonder about the behaviors of the new me that have become embedded over the past year.
"No problem, I can wake up at 5:30 for our yoga class." Did I just say that? Yup.
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I’ve always prided myself on being a keen observer of human behavior. In pre-pandemic times, if you described a stressful situation, I believed I’d accurately predict how my friends will react. As we battle the gut wrenching COVID infection rates upending our world, I’ve been doing a deep dive into how those I know best are coping with its aftermath of anxiety and depression. Who would arrange all their hangers to go the same way. Who would read 20 books. Who would have the hardest time adjusting. How arrogant I was. Behavior during COVID times is hardly rational....
