Felice’s Blog

 

Felice Shapiro, Founder and Publisher of Better After 50, muses about life as a BA50.

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Girlfriends and Seth Rogan Doppelgänger To The Rescue…Finding Gratitude Amidst a Mess

There's a reason my husbands and friends nicknamed me Lucy. Seems I'm always getting into the damnedest messes. But, I do Love Lucy because she has a way of laughing her way out of a crisis. So here's my latest mess. Human error is a thing. Procrastination is a thing.....It turns out almost every single person woman on that text chain, all 9 out of 12,  had a link to an expediter. There's glorious comfort in a group of women who share the same screw-ups and can laugh about it and support each other. The only one doing the shaming was me.  God I love these women! Well, you can get almost anything done if your willing to pay in this world.  This error was going to cost me.  ...
Felice Shapiro

4 Answers To the Question… Why This Night/Year in 2022 Is Different Than All Other Nights and Years?

This year's seder table conversation should be a showstopper.  When, "Why Is This Night Different From All Other Nights" is asked 4 times at our seder table the answers will surely be what makes this night different from all other nights.  Reflecting on this year's upcoming 2022 Passover seder, it is clear how the central themes of Passover resonate with relevance in our changing world. Passover happens to be my favorite holiday, and our family tradition has been established from Day One with our kids. Each of our Passover seders really stand out from year to year and I remember so many seders have surprisingly become rites of passage in our family.   During the dinner table discussion as we read from our Haggadah's (our passover story books), there is always a discussion around the central question ....Why Is This Night Different From All Other Nights?This year the answer to this question lies not only in the printed word in our seder books but in our daily lives.  ...
Jewelry

BA50 Peace and Love Jewelry from Devon Road Jewelry

I met Robin Kaplan on a women's retreat in Sedona, Arizona. Hiking through the mountains we talked about her work as a therapist and more recently the  launch of her Devon Road Jewelry business in Newton. I was aware that Robin's combination of her jewelry business and therapy were beautifully interwoven as she spoke about connecting with women.  The joy that Robin brings to the process of helping select the right piece for her clients and their friends is infectious and it's easy to see why women love to shop her lines....
Felice and Bill in Aspen

Sleep Overs After 60….44 Hours In Aspen

I loved camp, love sleep-overs, and still after 60, cherish morning visits in PJ's and organic unfolding of days with friends that only a sleepover can bring. Bill, loves his own bed. So when our friends Jill and Jeff invited us for a sleepover and we said yes. "Come ski, hike, hang- out. It will be fun." The New York Times has great travel stories about 36 or 48 hours in places so here’s our version ... a BA50 /44 hour itinerary of awesome Aspen post-Covid with great friends. Reader take note. Aspen is pricey, crazy pricey and full of frustrated workers, limited affordable housing and frankly, it's got issues. But, the town still has got plenty of charm and awesome natural beauty. ...
Felice Shapiro

The Long Marriage…Should We Feel Badly For Our Husbands?

Sometimes, it's hard to say...thanks, I really appreciate that but I really didn't want that. Or other truths about keeping the love alive in a long haul marriage. "Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy? I haven't been right in 32 years but I'm a happy man." And so muses Comedian Jeff Allen on his You Tube Dry Bar performance...How to Understand The Wife's Code. OMG, I can't stop laughing at this guy, because it's the guy's perspective and it's just too funny - but honestly, it does make me feel badly for our guys to hear these truths....
Interview

Camp Reinvention For Women Over 50: Sign Up To Make the Change You’ve Been Hoping For

When Dana Hilmer and Wendy Perrotti, co-creators of Camp Reinvention reached out to me to partner and help spread the word about their Camp Reinvention workshop launching this March 24th, I was thrilled. A workshop to help women over 50 move forward and embrace change is right in the mission sweet spot of BA50's wheelhouse. So, I agreed to post an interview to share with you all. I think the program sounds great. Have a listen and see what you think....
Women's retreat

Into the Vortex: 35 Bad-Ass Women Over 50 Meet Up In Sedona

Thirty-five women walked in silence for 10 minutes - and seamlessly, deer came to feed almost at our feet. The river flowed nearby over small rapids fed by the snow above and the aquifers below. We were hiking down from the Vortex at Cathedral Rock where we had sat for a guided mediation which was truly transformative.  Sedona, Arizona is the land of enchantment, electro magnetic energy fields —-some measurable and some not. This is the land of vortexes and magic, of psychics and scientists. The red towering rocks and cliffs are everywhere and life is lived in 360 degree technicolor.  The horizon is infinitely far and the light casts shadows and heat in extremes. The trees hold secrets - the Sycamores trees talk to the Pinon trees and this was the backdrop for 35 women to come together on a 5- day trip created by our leader Sue Shale and facilitated by Rabbi Jamie, the  Adventure  Rabbi from Boulder, Colorado. ...
Yoga

Friends With Benefits: Girlfriend Time is Back

I had no idea how much I missed girlfriend time these past few years. This friggin pandemic has put a halt to one of my favorite ways to recharge...one on one girlfriend getaways. Well, this past week I got a mega dose of girlfriend time and it was awesome. I'm not complaining but I was out of practice and needed a nap after a 3 day visit with my dear friend Randi who squeezed in a quick trip to my place before meeting up with her husband.  "I cannot believe we pulled this off!" I said to Randi. "Your timing is amazing, we can do whatever we want ... we've got the whole house to ourselves."...
Hugging

Hugging, The Cuddle Hormone Is Back In Action

Hugging, the cuddle hormone is back in action. Did you know hugging creates a feeling of calmness and relaxation. That's because of oxytocin, which is sometimes called the "cuddle hormone." Oxytocin is released when people or pets snuggle up or bond socially. This release can have a domino effect throughout the body.... That's great news for huggers who are now feeling pretty liberated in the past few weeks as Covid restrictions have lifted. Raised by demonstrative huggers, I have sorely missed the hugging dance. I couldn't be happier that hugging is back.. ...

On Writing: How We Jump Started Our Creative Juices

Covid fatigue is a bear. Despite the camaraderie of our writing group we were running flat after 2 years of weekly 2 hour sessions. "How do we get re-inspired  and re-motivated," was the burning question.  And, as the group's leader, I was charged with the personal challenge to find a way to wake us all up. So this Tuesday's writing group meeting started with a cry for help.  "Hey guys, is anyone having a hard time focusing lately?"  They all nodded in agreement. "Ok, ok," I was starting to feel my pulse again,  "Me too. So let's try this...( I was grasping at anything at this point).......
Tony Robbins

Darwinism, Tony Robbins and Surviving “The Winter of Our Discontent”

There is something truly scientific going on here as we move into our 3rd winter of discontent. There's something that the historians and scientists will have a go at in a few years, but as of now we have to muck through the reality of this winter.  Don't get me wrong, I'm grateful. My gratitude list is huge but we humans are not meant to live like this. What is the Darwinian side of isolation? Who wins? Maybe only Tony Robbins' disciples win. ...
Skiing

What Scares You and Excites You…My 2022 Adrenaline Pumping Goal

I had a John Krakauer "Into Thin Air" moment when I met my friend Ellen at 7 am with headlamp on (Ellen had gifted me the headlamp), ready to skin up Park City for my first sunrise hike. It was all new to me. The equipment, the climb, being on a mountain in the dark, my untested strength to keep up with the skinning group in altitude. Fears of not being strong enough, failing, and the drive to conquer. Fear flooded my brain. I realized I had not tested or pushed myself physically in a very long time. It was both exhilarating and sickening and I was all in....
Felice skiing

How We See Ourselves: The Meet And Greet

I've been meeting a lot of new people lately as my husband and I have settled into our winter life in Park City, Utah for the second year. And so, at every new social introduction I am greeted with the same question..."It's so nice to meet you? What do you do?" So many decades of living have resulted in a full mantle of mini monikers...a mini series with multiple seasons. A bookshelf full of titles and chapters that need serious editing.  But which one will I pull off the shelf first? ...