Felice’s Blog

 

Felice Shapiro, Founder and Publisher of Better After 50, muses about life as a BA50.

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Felice Shapiro

Women In Our Prime Begins At 60

Don Lemon got slammed by his clueless comment about women in their prime on air and is now undergoing formal training. CNN’s chairman, Chris Licht, said … that [anchor Don Lemon] “has agreed to participate in formal training” after making on-air comments widely regarded as sexist. — New York Times, Feb. 20, 2023.  What the hell is formal training?   Whaaaaat! Women in their 60's know that Don Lemon got it wrong by 2 decades. Yes we know that in our bones! But frankly we aren't going to worry about Don's insensitivity because that's how he feels and that may never change and we are tuning out...bye bye Don. You know why? ...
Felice Shapiro skiing

7 Reasons My Feel Age is Way Younger Than My Real Age…What About You?

Everyone is guilty of asking....How old are you or How old is She?  But why do we ask that question? What are we really getting at when we ask that question? Is it a competition as younger is better? Maybe that's why we ask? But I've been thinking, I mean most of my friends are within 5 to 7  years of each other -- why are we so obsessed about how old we are?  What's strange is that question has always annoyed me because it makes me feel pigeon holed --- and that's because my real age casts me in a place that doesn't reflect how I really feel. Disclosing my real age strikes me as incorrect, that I need to rethink the number as there may be some miscalculation. When I think about my real age, I think someone got it wrong. I mean how can I be in my 60's which feels perhaps too old to feel the way I feel . I am still doing pretty much everything I did in my 50's... Yes....almost everything with modifications and some things I'm doing way better!...
Interview

Can I Take HRT After 60? Answers To Your HRT Questions…: Dr. Susan Hardwick-Smith Interviewed By Felice Shapiro

Taking Hormones pre and post menopause when symptomatic is a discussion that every BA50 should have with their GYN. The HRT door was closed on most of us due to a 2002 WHI (Women's Health Initiative) study that has recently been revisited and determined to be flawed and therefore not the last word. See New York Times post by Susan Dominus Titled: Women Have Been Misled About Menopause. So the question for women of whether to start HRT,  meaning -- Estrogen, Testosterone and other hormone replacements in your 40's, 50's, 60's and 70's -- is front and center and back on the table thanks to Susan Dominus. I was thrilled to talk to Dr. Susan Hardwick-Smith, Founder of the Complete Midlife Wellness Center in Houston, about HRT and the decision to start taking hormones even 10 years post menopause, in our 60's, for the first time. This is an important interview that every BA50 will want  to listen to if they are interested in educating themselves about whether HRT is something they may want to talk to their Dr. about. Dr. Susan deals with the benefits and risks to consider when making your decision and she is very encouraging. This interview is a continuation of last week's discussion on BA50 about why Doctors are  still making decisions for us about our hormone health based on a study that is more than 20 years old which has so many flaws?  Dr. Susan addresses the risks of HRT as it relates to blood clots, heart health, bone health and breast cancer and who is at risk and if you are over 60.  Be sure to listen all the way through because we have many more options than we were previously told. Dr. Susan believes everyone is a candidate for HRT as it addresses so many of our aging symptoms. Question: "If we aren't in menopause and don't have hot flashes BUT have bone health, memory concerns, thinning skin, sleep, vaginal dryness, UTI issues etc....should we be taking Estrogen?" Question: "What are the risks and can we take Estrogen long term?" Click to listen this interview........
Felice Shapiro

How To Feed Your Vegan Guest 101

I shamed myself the other week when I invited my  dear friends who are Vegan over for dinner and we started to discuss the menu. "So I'm not sure what to make because I know you are Vegan," I said. "Don't worry, we will bring a Vegan App and a Vegan Pizza." "Wait, I invited you guys." "It's ok don't bother." I let them bring the pizza and the App. "Really Felice.....this is so not OK," I chided myself. "You should know better. You're smart and love to learn so you can do this...you can learn what to make for your Vegan friends. More and more of my friends are becoming Vegan and rather than educate myself about what I can serve them when they come over,  I keep asking the same dumb questions about whether this or that is ok. I should know better! I mean what's so hard about this? Roast the veggies and don't use butter...use olive oil. No you can't have Cobb Salad with cheese and bacon. Do you know why...

Saying Yes To Separate Marital Bed Responses Blew My Mind…What Did You Think?

I was blown away by the response to the post we published last week on BA50, Marcia Byalick's "Marriage Everlasting In Separate Bedrooms." The post literally went viral. There have been 60K views on our BA50 Instagram and BA50 Facebook  and the comments poured in... including a rousing... The honesty of our readers' comments were fascinating with so many sharing their own sleep arrangements both separate and not.  I wanted to share some of my thoughts on this topic and am inviting you all to share yours as well. I truly was surprised and curious to learn more when I read the comments by so  many who were also happier in separate bedrooms and still have healthy marriages.  This was news to me and struck a chord as well.  First of all, there is the judgement piece.  There are many topics about our marriages that we prefer not to share because who wants to be judged, so I was thrilled Marcia took on this topic. And, the truth is, I learned from this post....
Kayaking in New Zealand

Amazing Affordable & Athletic New Zealand in 2 Weeks

Kia Ora (good day) to you all. I am writing this piece after wrapping up our 14 day group South Island tour of Otearoa (New Zealand) -- which means the land of the long white cloud in Māori. It's hard to write about a 14 day trip that covered 2,000 miles of driving, 100 miles of hiking and 30 miles of kayaking and biking, 7 different accommodations and 40 meals in a short post but I'm going to try. There are so many ways to experience New Zealand and my husband and I decided we wanted to be immersed in nature, travel with a small group and use a local tour company. We signed on for a 2 week road trip, staying in "moderate" accommodations, with a physically challenging itinerary and hiking level. That said, the magic ingredients of a successful trip include research first and foremost but, no amount of research can guarantee a great trip.  Travel requires optimism, a positive attitude, faith and luck. Our trip to New Zealand was amazing for all those reasons, some in our control. Bill and I were thinking about which of our friends would enjoy this trip and as much as we loved our 2 week adventure …it is not for everyone. Here’s why…....
Felice Shapiro in New Zealand

It Starts With The Journey: 24 Hours of Travel To New Zealand

My husband and I are on what we consider the "trip of a lifetime." It took us 28 hours to get to New Zealand from the states, maybe more. Some would say with the time difference it took us two days. I kind of stopped counting after the 3 hour delay  at  LAX and the 2 missed connections in Sydney and Auckland. But that was so last week and I wasn't going to write about it because we are here for 3 weeks and loving the trip which I promise to share -- but first -- getting to New Zealand is not a small effort and worth talking about. Assuming a journey this far could be seamless is foolhardy but we adventure traveling humans tend to be optimists so we don't normally plan for set backs. But this time we did -- a little....
Hairdresser cut hair of a woman. Close-up.

Top Celeb Haircuts for BA50s for 2023 That Will Inspire You

How not to style your hair after 50 is pretty easy to figure out because too much au naturale doesn't work the way it used to. So, let's just NOT do the trending "wet look" and the long stringy look which is in style for 2023 (See Harpers Bazaar  and Elle UK for, in our humble opinion, WhatBA50s should avoid.) That said, we have curated some incredible styles that will definitely inspire you. Check out Jennifer Aniston, Cate Blanchette and Julia Roberts' great looks for starters and then we have a You Tube 2023 hair style link that you will love....
Felice Shapiro

Don’t Waste Your Time Worrying About Your Age Because 60 May Just Be The New Middle Age

Every birthday after 50 most of think we are heading toward that "older" age but it's not true. There are some incredible statistics on our side proving that not only are we going to live longer but every day 10,000 people turn 65 which means there are plenty of "us". And when we hit 65 we are still not the oldest generation as "The fastest growing age group in the U.S. is people over age 85, and the second fastest is people 100 and over (centenarians). Experts predict a twelvefold increase in centenarians by the year 2060, and that a 10-year-old child alive today has a 50% chance of living to be over 100.May 26, 2022." Obviously there's a myriad of topics that an aging population triggers in terms of the economics of supporting this demo and how our kids will bear the brunt of that burden. But, on another note -- back to us -- since longevity is in our favor, it begs the question and demands immediate answers as to what are we doing to day to ensure we are not wasting our time bemoaning how old we are, examining our saggy skin, and delaying getting that hip replaced. I for one am kinda pissed that I spent too much time thinking I was old when I turned 60 because the truth is once I found the right place to live and celebrate each day, age has become less of a topic. This is the 3rd winter my husband and I are living in Park City, Utah it's hard to feel old here since this place is all about being outdoors and being active....