Felice’s Blog

 

Felice Shapiro, Founder and Publisher of Better After 50, muses about life as a BA50.

Connect with Felice on her Twitter and her Facebook. You can also connect on the BA50 Twitter or BA50 Facebook Page.

 


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Out Of My Comfort Zone: The Thrill Of Saying Yes

Let's face it, as convenient as Zoom is, it’s not the same as in-person meetings. I have dearly missed “Live” workshops. Real  people, real time equals real energy and that's just what happened this week at a writing workshop I ran where I got a full dose. I'm still buzzing from the excitement and novelty of it all. Here's what happened.... Back in July my friend Jill and I were talking about upcoming stuff for this Fall and that's when she asked me if I would like to run a workshop for her YPO group in Boston. My heart started beating fast right there and then....

Positive Steps: Getting Into the Growth Zone

“The comfort zone is a behavioral state within which a person operates in an anxiety-neutral condition, using a limited set of behaviors to deliver a steady level of performance, usually without a sense of risk.” There is a great piece in positive psychology about getting out of the comfort zone and into the growth zone and how to do it. "The core idea is that our nervous systems have a Goldilocks zone of arousal. Too little, and you remain in the comfort zone, where boredom sets in. But too much, and you enter the ‘panic’ zone, which also stalls progress."...
Boots

Shit Kickers and Western Hipster Boots For Fall 2022

Shit Kickers and sturdy western style boots are killer. I'm obsessed with this western style sturdy walkable boot and the look sold on the LL Bean and Frye sites.  These boots all look great with jeans, skirts and yoga pants and they go from snow to rain to dinner. Personally, they make me feel forever young, maybe because I wore them in Boulder, Colorado for a few years in my teens. Whenever I need boots I love this look.  The best thing about these boots is they have big toe beds. They are way easier to wear than shoes for our aging feet. Check out these boots from LL Bean and Frye that are my personal favorites....
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Going Gray Affecting Ageism In Workplace? Listen To Lisa LaFlamme’s Farewell To Her Viewers.

During Covid isolation gray hair was trending and rather than the fashion magazines of Madison Avenue setting the hair styling rules of the road, the women have spoken.  The letting go of the coloring and bleaching cycles have given way to a freer and easier look which embraces aging and now the magazines are supporting this shift with women over 50 looking gorgeous with silver hair on their covers.  But what about how gray haired women are viewed in the workplace? When letting the hair go gray affects one's work that is a much much bigger choice. ...
Lulu and Me

LuLu and Us

I've had plenty of time to observe the dog walking parades everywhere throughout Covid and the runway of breeds to choose from is endless. But the dog that gets me crouching and cooing are these little golden doodles.   Shamelessly, I barely look at the human at the end of the leash and talk directly to the puppy and just listen for the answer.  "Oh you are the cutest, you are so cute." And then, in the rudest of unapologetic behaviors I nod to the ancillary human asking -- "Are you empty nested, how did you decide to get a pup?" And so the stories begin.  My interviewing  of humans has been a courage building process. I have unconsciously been looking for the one thing that will push me to over ride my better instincts and my husband which are screaming at me as to why it makes no sense to get a dog now....
The Somerset Maxi Dress

Maxi Dresses for The Beach From Anthropologie

Oscar De La Renta brought us the Maxi dresses in the late 60's and we wore them into the 70's. And now they are back in style. We love Maxi dresses because they are easy to wear in the heat and are great for casual for dress up as well.  They look great with flip flops, flats and heels.  Here's some great options. Please share with us your favorite Maxi dress on Instagram - we would love to see what you picked to wear this summer. Take a picture of you in your Maxi and send to editor@betterafter50.com to post and share for a BA50 reader fashion round up....

OLLY and L-Theanine: Benefits, Risks, Sources, and Dosage

Sometimes it just happens when I have alot on my mind and the thoughts are thrumming through my brain and I can neither quiet them nor tuck them into a compartment. The mind chatters incessantly and I wake each morning exhausted. Normally, I'm pretty chill and believe that whatever sleep I get is enough but these past few weeks have tested me and I've been pooped. I asked a friend who is going through some tough stuff how she was sleeping and she told me that she sleeps just fine. Her cocktail of choice is a gummy and melotonin. My last visit to Boston I tried to find those gummies but couldn't so on I popped into Whole Foods and asked about sleep supplements with melatonin.  I was shown the many shelves and many options of sleep aids and selected one that I knew nothing about but it was a gummy and I mostly understood the ingredients.  It's been a game changer....
Sandals

BA50 Loves These Comfort And Styling Flip Flops and Wedge Sandals For Summer 2022

There are only two types of footwear that make my feet happy these days and those are winter boots and sandals. So here we are in sandal season and I couldn't be happier with the selections of comfort and look. The colors are vibrant and even the fanciest Prada have gone slightly Birk.  Take a look at these offerings and freshen up your closet and put a spring in your step....
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Oscar Worthy Emma Thompson: Sex After 60 and Body Acceptance in Leo Grande

Last night my husband and I were mesmerized by Emma Thompson's performance as Nancy, a 63 year old retired schoolteacher and widow who has never had an orgasm in the new Hulu film GOOD LUCK TO YOU, LEO GRANDE ... Nancy hires Leo Grande, a much-younger sex worker (Daryl McCormack) for a series of encounters in a hotel room. We meet her in the hotel room as she nervously awaits her first encounter and from that moment we watch Nancy find her way sexually and emotionally at this later stage of life. There is so much to discuss about this film and I recommend every BA50 see it. What was most remarkable about the film.......
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Caire Cosmetics Hyaluronic Acid Products…What We Need To Know and Why Caire?

Celeste Lee, Co-Founder of Caire Cosmetics and I had a coffee the other day in NYC. We laughed and brainstormed for almost 2 hours about Betterafter50 women and Caire's mission of providing consciously created skincare to empower women.  Celeste is one of us -- she walks the walk. I love these products and have the face mask and serum.  They are onto something big in terms of their formula using Hyaluronic Acid. Hyaluronic Acid is like a glass of water for your face. It’s a molecule that works to draw + lock in moisture, supports elasticity, and boosts overall collagen production in your skin. In this way, Hyaluronic Acid contributes to a youthful complexion that looks plump, smooth, and filled....

My New Trick For Turning The Dreaded Unpacking And Clothes Purging Job Into Joy

I cannot look at another suitcase. Finally 2 weeks of packing and unpacking we are finally settled into our island home for the next 5 months and excited to be here. But, the transition was brutal. I seemed to have developed packing narcolepsy. If it's not a "thing" it should be. Too much to do and no gusto to do it makes me sleepy. My 4 day window to get it all done was crammed into 2 days. Exhausted, somehow the prize was the  4 hour road trip to the ferry and then the crossing . It was a delicious passage and I cherished the limbo. But, as we pulled up to our house, the thought of lugging the suitcases and unpacking seemed even more brutal -- so I didn't do it. I just left those bags and once again I was happily snoozing pretending that this was perfectly fine behavior. "Hey honey, I tripped over your shoe bin on the way to the bathroom and I was thinking, those suitcases haven't seen any action ... what's going on?" "No worries, I'll get to it -- the Celtics are on tonight so maybe I will do it then."...
Travel Group

Join Me At Women’s Travel Wisdom in October

I'm incredibly inspired and thrilled to have met Doni Belau founder of Women's Guide to Paris and Beyond and creator of  The Women's Travel Wisdom Retreat   Doni's passion and mission is about women and community and she has been in the women's travel business since 2009, with over 40 trips for women all over the world. This October I am excited to be joining an incredible roster of speakers and will be leading a Journey Writing Workshop For Healing and Creative Expression. I am hoping some of you can come. Please click below to meet Doni and learn about her incredible work. My favorite line in this interview is at the closing. Doni truly walks the walk ...