Retired in 2009 after four decades of teaching High School Social Studies in New York City and Long Island. I found the work challenging, interesting and ever so rewarding. I retired to take care of my husband who after eight long years of struggle died just before Thanksgiving, 2016. During the early stages of his illness I contemplated writing a memoir/ ethnography from the insider’s perspective on the many facets of a caregiver’s life. I was lucky enough to enroll in Marcia Bialyck’s Memoir Writing Class. She has been this writer’s gift and has motivated me as I continue to delve into the up and downs , and the ins and outs of caregiving from a very personal viewpoint. My hope is caregivers will be able to relate and feel less alone as they struggle to cope and survive. I count myself fortunate to have a wonderful daughter, son-in- law and two of the most engaging and fun loving grandchildren.