Ginny Poleman, Author at Better After 50

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Young Love: My Daughter and Her Boyfriend

Ginny PolemanOctober 19, 2020

I tried to keep my eyes on the puzzle but I couldn’t help observing my daughter—now a young woman—gaze at her lover. People say she looks like me with her turned up nose and heart-shaped face, but her coloring is all her dad’s side of the family: deep, deep auburn hair; creamy porcelain skin with a smattering of peachy freckles; and light colored eyes—one blue, one light brown. The soft light of the fire danced across her face, illuminating her happiness....

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Losing Your Best Friend When He Becomes Your ex-Husband

Ginny PolemanOctober 12, 2020

It was one of the saddest days of my life and I needed the kind of comfort that came from my go-to person for the past thirty-plus years. I wanted to climb into...

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Taking Care of Myself Meant Losing Him

Ginny PolemanOctober 5, 2020

We had a romantic start: museum dates, rooftop bars, cozy corners in restaurants, two snowed-in weekdays in March, sexy text banter. We felt like we were in a rom-com montage. Those early days were heady with lust, dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin—a cocktail of feel good hormones. But those early love-floods hid the cracks beneath the surface....

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Who was the ‘Other Woman?’ Me or the wife?

Ginny PolemanSeptember 28, 2020

He gave me a head’s up I’d be hearing from her. She called me a ‘home-wrecker.’ Not to my face but in a long, well-written, emotional text. I had been see...

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At The End Of The Date, When The Clothes Come Off

Ginny PolemanAugust 24, 2020

Just like exercising with my personal trainer, sometimes my favorite part of a date is when it’s over. It doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with the man. The date could have been wonderful, stimulating, sexy. But once he’s left me......

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Post-Divorce First Date

Ginny PolemanAugust 10, 2020

My new Bumble profile went live. I held my breath. Newly separated for four months, I had packed some bags and moved to Los Angeles for the summer. It was the adventure I needed. On Bumble, I mostly swiped left. Occasionally swiped right. I matched. I chatted with men within the app. I tentatively shared my cell phone number. I finally agreed to meet a man for lunch in Venice Beach. ...

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When a Lie Feels Kinder

Ginny PolemanJuly 20, 2020

I had been on a dating spree after the New Year when all the dating apps are most active. I went on a bunch of dates, met a few nice men, all lovely in their own right, but not right for me. I saw one man more than once, John, a widower from New Jersey, who was kind and polite—maybe a bit too polite—but lovely, nonetheless....

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The Pandemic First Kiss

Ginny PolemanJune 22, 2020

We had matched on Bumble nearly a year ago. The last message from him was “Happy Mother’s Day.” I admit, I dropped the ball. Sometimes it has nothing to do with...

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The Almost Great First Third Date

Ginny PolemanMay 18, 2020

It was the first Third Date I had been on since my separation. He was cute, younger, and funny. But I knew with the third date, there were expectations, especially after that Uber ride with him at the end of our last date—hands groping, tongues entwining....

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Dating in the Time of Corona

Ginny PolemanApril 13, 2020

I’m picturing the day when this #StayAtHome mandate is lifted. Imagine a 1980s MTV video with school kids busting out the school door throwing their backpacks ...

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