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My Oprah Winfrey Moment…Why 52 doesn’t have to be 30

That was precisely when it happened, my authentic Oprah Winfrey a-ha moment. At 52, I wanted out of our poisonous, youth-obsessed beauty culture, illusionary at best but more often unapologetically deceptive. Images offered as “effortless” in magazines and social media seductively and insidiously pulverize female self-esteem to a microfine powder which fails its promise to illuminate. I wanted my money back. I credit my savvy and self-confident teenage daughter Kate for rousing me from idiocy. It was a Sunday morning, and with a keen eye, I scrutinized online offerings...
couple hugging

Why We Need a Hug Now!

In these disorienting times I feel like I’m holding all this emotion in my body with nowhere to put it. There was actually a study where healthy adults were monitored for how often they hugged. Then they were quarantined and intentionally infected with a cold virus. Those who received more hugs had less severe disease. Counterintuitive, no? That those who receive more hugs are somehow more protected from infection? Maybe if CVS dispensed comforting hugs.......
Tony Robbins

Darwinism, Tony Robbins and Surviving “The Winter of Our Discontent”

There is something truly scientific going on here as we move into our 3rd winter of discontent. There's something that the historians and scientists will have a go at in a few years, but as of now we have to muck through the reality of this winter.  Don't get me wrong, I'm grateful. My gratitude list is huge but we humans are not meant to live like this. What is the Darwinian side of isolation? Who wins? Maybe only Tony Robbins' disciples win. ...
Bell bottoms and accessories

5 Chic and Flattering Outfits with Trendy Bellbottoms

Remember the bellbottoms we wore in the 70's? They are BACK in a big way and there are so many fun ways to style them! This retro-inspired aesthetic was seen on many recent runways and looks great on us BA50's as long as we don't dress head-to-toe like a 60's hippie! Flares elongate our silhouette so they are flattering and easy to wear. Read on for 5 fashionable outfits that all start with a great pair of bellbottoms. ...
Skiing

What Scares You and Excites You…My 2022 Adrenaline Pumping Goal

I had a John Krakauer "Into Thin Air" moment when I met my friend Ellen at 7 am with headlamp on (Ellen had gifted me the headlamp), ready to skin up Park City for my first sunrise hike. It was all new to me. The equipment, the climb, being on a mountain in the dark, my untested strength to keep up with the skinning group in altitude. Fears of not being strong enough, failing, and the drive to conquer. Fear flooded my brain. I realized I had not tested or pushed myself physically in a very long time. It was both exhilarating and sickening and I was all in....
Who Are You

Personality Traits We Inherit from Our Parents

Bolton & Bolton argue that two main dimensions can explain and predict how people behave: assertiveness and responsiveness. Assertiveness is the degree to which people’s behavior is seen as forceful and directive.  Responsiveness is the degree to which people are seen as showing emotions or demonstrating sensitivity. From a personal standpoint, what I find interesting about this model is how perfectly I can place my parents into two of those boxes. My mother was your classic Driver:  highly organized, efficient and action-oriented, but at times practical to a fault. My father was a vintage Expressive: an enthusiastic storyteller who connected with people easily, but couldn’t keep track of details....
Candy

Loving Hard Candy…This May Be A Sign Of Getting Older

On a recent trip to California, I bought a box of Sees hard candies at the airport gift shop. I had a five-hour flight ahead of me and I figured it was something I could eat while wearing a mask. And — surprise! I really enjoyed them. The fact that it takes forever to eat one is a plus. Pop it in your mouth and you’ve got something sweet to savor for the next five minutes. Not only that but hard candy never melts or gets stale. I’ve been enjoying “grandma candy” ever since....
High Waisted Straight or Relaxed

Tips for Buying and Styling Denim for Petite BA50’s

We all know how important a great fitting pair of denim is, but for many of us, the struggle to find the "perfect" pair is real. With more relaxed styles now on trend, many of us BA50's want a jean refresh, but aren't sure where to start. And when you are 5'4" or shorter like me, you may have even more difficulties finding denim that fits properly. If you are tired of buying denim online and having to return it since the style doesn't look anything like it did on the fit model, I'm here to help....
Cancer Made Me a Comedian

Cancer Made Me a Commedian

I wanted my life to have meaning. So, I decided to leave Canada and go to Hawaii. Call it a mid-life crisis or call it escape from reality…I was going to spend a few years volunteering for a charitable organization there. Surely that would cure my destiny angst. “I’ll discover my purpose there,” I thought. And if I didn’t, at least I’d get a good tan. Baby steps. I was way overdue for my mammogram, so I figured I’d better get one before I left. Come to think of it, I’d had a painful lump for several weeks, but everyone said that if a lump was painful, it wasn’t cancer, so I wasn’t worried. After all, ‘everyone’ knows best, right? After the mammogram, my doctor ordered an ultrasound, then a biopsy. “There’s something there, but it’s probably nothing,” he reassured me....
Bras

Boobs and The Single Lady

I have been the recipient of very practical advice since I’ve begun dating, on topics ranging from sexually-transmitted diseases over the age of 60 to how to weed out “catfishers” on Bumble. However, the most humbling advice was from a writing friend, who received it from one of her friends, likely passed down from other well-meaning single women. “Refrain from “being on top” when you have sex. Your boobs will take on a life of their own.” I have never really liked my boobs and this is just one more reason. If sex after 60 weren’t awkward enough, with all the aging body parts, I now needed to worry about smothering a man with my breasts....
BA50 Bloggers Writing Retreat

Covid Rears Its Ugly Head Once Again

I truly thought we were done. I foolishly thought we were done. After being vaccinated and boostered I felt like I had a shield around me. But then I went on a two-night retreat sharing a house and meals and lots of glorious writing and even more glorious laughter with seven other vaxxed women.  (Our BA50 Writers Blogging Group). It felt so good and so back-to-normal again… until it wasn’t....

Featured on Relationship Thursday

Bras

Boobs and The Single Lady

I have been the recipient of very practical advice since I’ve begun dating, on topics ranging from sexually-transmitted diseases over the age of 60 to how to weed out “catfishers” on Bumble. However, the most humbling advice was from a writing friend, who received it from one of her friends, likely passed down from other well-meaning single women. “Refrain from “being on top” when you have sex. Your boobs will take on a life of their own.” I have never really liked my boobs and this is just one more reason. If sex after 60 weren’t awkward enough, with all the aging body parts, I now needed to worry about smothering a man with my breasts....

Tattoos: Never Say Never, Even After 60

I grew up in a world that was divided into two kinds of people: those who had tattoos and those who were afraid of people with tattoos. In the movies, prisoners and gang members, carnival workers and criminals had them. They marked reckless, defiant outsiders…tribal members with a shady moral compass.  Nazis tattooed people. End of story. Then in the 70s, the stigma dimmed a bit. Fashionable, creative, adventurous celebrities like Cher, Peter Fonda and Janis Joplin displayed their ink. The chests and arms of those “in the service” in Viet Nam showed their proud affiliation. For the first time, although far from my thing, I saw tattoos as an indicator of something relevant to a person’s individual story, a canvas of their experiences....

Featured on Fashion Friday

How to Style Clogs in 2022

Clogs seem to always come around in the fashion cycle, and I am happy to say that they are high on the trend list for 2022. If you have fond memories of living in clogs in the 70's and/or 90's, you are in luck! Until the weather warms up, pair your clogs with denim and a pair of rag socks for warmth. Clogs will also add a casual, hip vibe to a sweater dress and tights. Once the temperatures rise, wear your clogs with almost any outfit - sundresses, skirts, cropped pants, and even shorts. ...
Bell bottoms and accessories

5 Chic and Flattering Outfits with Trendy Bellbottoms

Remember the bellbottoms we wore in the 70's? They are BACK in a big way and there are so many fun ways to style them! This retro-inspired aesthetic was seen on many recent runways and looks great on us BA50's as long as we don't dress head-to-toe like a 60's hippie! Flares elongate our silhouette so they are flattering and easy to wear. Read on for 5 fashionable outfits that all start with a great pair of bellbottoms. ...