I feel like I’ve discovered a little known secret for meeting high quality men! I stumbled upon a Facebook group for singles by accident. If you’re active on Facebook as I am for my work, you are sometimes offered suggestions of groups to join. I used to ignore them, but recently I decided what the heck, I will try one. This was a group specifically for 40-50 year-old Jewish singles, which is my demographic.
What I found was incredible; many of the same faces I had seen on JDate.com were in this group. But they were no longer static profiles of strangers. These were men who were actively engaged in interesting discussions, mostly about relationships. I got to learn about their personalities and values. Men who had previously ignored my emails were now talking to me in the Facebook group. Many sent friend requests. I’ve been getting to know a few more intimately, and it’s only a matter of time before we start dating.
How can you find love on Facebook? There are thousands of Facebook groups online, created by members to discuss specific topics and share photos, video clips and links to online content. There is no Facebook directory or “yellow pages,” but you can view and access all groups in a particular subject category by using the Facebook Search tool.
Sign into your Facebook account. Click inside the search box above the news feed on your Facebook homepage. (There’s a little magnifying glass in the right-hand corner.)
Type one or two keywords into the Search box; for example, you can enter a broad subject keyword, such as “singles,” or be more specific and enter “Christian Singles” or “Christian Singles 40-50.”
You may get a list of groups in the drop-down menu. If you do, click on the one you want to join. If you want to see other groups, click “See More Results” at the bottom of the drop-down menu to open the results of your keyword search on a new page.
You might have to click the “Groups” tab in the left-hand menu to filter search results and show only Facebook Groups, rather than Facebook Pages, applications, people and other Facebook content. In my search, I didn’t have to complete this step.
Scroll through the list of results to view all Facebook Groups in your keyword category. Click on the group’s name to access its homepage. To join the group, click the “join group” button at the top of the page. So easy!
Some groups are closed and you must request permission to join. Click the “join group” link and someone will probably add you to the group. They are usually not very discerning.
Now, have fun! Join in the conversation. If you see someone whose comment you like, click on his/her photo and check out their profile. If s/he has an open profile, you’ll be able to find out a lot of information. Look at their photos. See what they do for fun. Vacation photos are popular on Facebook. Do you enjoy the same types of activities? If you like what you see, send a friend request and start a private Facebook conversation.
Where is the love?
It’s important to be open about meeting your match anywhere. Whether it’s at the library, grocery store, or through social media, there really are so many eligible singles out there. Sometimes love shows up in the most surprising way. What are you waiting for? Get out there and make some Facebook Group magic happen today!
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