Warning: This post contains content that may be graphic for some readers.
The best orgasms I have ever had, I have had to wait for. The technical term for this is called “Edging.” Edging is when you bring a person to the edge of climax and then stop. It’s all about coming very close and then pulling away. It’s all about heightened arousal, hinting at more, anticipation, waiting, yearning, getting close, hunger and then finally being allowed to let go.
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The best orgasm I ever had, I had to wait two days for. Really.
When my lover and I got into bed, his hand was right there between my legs, holding. Sometimes, his fingers moved just enough. While he watched television, he absently whispered attention on my vagina. I was going nuts. Then he went to get a beer and turned the channel. He was absolutely enjoying himself in making me wait. And I was too. The anticipation was incredible.
“Is everything alright, dear?” He smiled.
All I could do was groan. Then this orgasm monster took out the tools of his trade. He reached for the toy he knew would make me crazy, the Lelo INA Wave. This baby tinkles, vibrates and moves all at the same time. He turned it on, and allowed it to dance right in front of my nose until I was whimpering (by the way, a woman whimpering for sex is a very good thing). And then he went below. Until I was screaming. And then just as I was about to climax; he kissed me on my mouth and held my pussy with his hand firmly until I felt my climax fade away. I swear I was ready to cry as he turned off the lights. The heat of my own body kept me awake for hours. It was so much torture. So much fun!
In the morning, I woke up on the edge. As soon as my eyes were open — his eyes were waiting for me.
“Need something love?” He purred.
It was all I could do not to jump on him. But all I did was open my legs and moan. And we began again. Slowly edging me to the cliff of climax. Almost getting me there, and then shifting and waiting. Approach and back off. Approach and back off. I was in a trance-like state or extreme arousal and desire when I was finally allowed to climax. And then I was welcome to have as many as I wanted. This was some of the best sex and truly one of the most memorable orgasms of my life.
There is incredible pleasure in withholding orgasm and waiting. It’s a clever use of the Erotic Equation: Obstacles (will I be allowed to orgasm), + Prohibition (I better not orgasm until this game is finished and begging is just not a feminist thing to do!), + Anticipation (will I get to orgasm this time?) + Desire (PLEASE LET ME HAVE MY ORGASM NOW).
Edging is one of my favorite games to play in my own erotic life and I love to teach it to couples and individuals because it is also an erotic game that you can play with yourself.
When playing with edging and self-pleasuring, gather up all of your favorite self-pleasure items and set a timer. Only allow yourself to play with each erotic activity for as long as you have previously set the timer for. When the bell rings — hands off and toys off! You must wait at least five minutes before starting all over again. Make yourself wait at least three times before climax.
The best sex is not about genitals, it is about learning how to play with erotic energy. Edging is a great way to dance in erotic energy, pleasure and mischief all at once.