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ThinkstockPhotos-468172425Sometimes You Just Need a “Good Flirting”!

I am a big believer in the power of flirting to enliven everyday existence. As Mae West said,  “It’s not what I do, but the way I do it. It’s not what I say, but the way I say it.” Flirting is simple, but the results to our life force energy can be extraordinary. Flirting allows us to play with our sexual selves, be seen by others, giggle and smile, be appreciated in a harmless way that is totally priceless.

Think about flirting as “Sipping” sex, because when we flirt, we may not actually be intending to sit down to eat. We just want to enjoy the flavors of the people around us, and reflect that joy back to them. It’s meant to be fun. And it’s a harmless but healthy way to move our sexual energy with others. Flirting is good for us, and good for the people that we flirt with. It’s one way that we all stop being invisible to each other. And then one of my clients, came up with this phrase called “Catch and Release”.  She put it this way:

“I’ve been sipping (what I will call fishing) a lot lately and it’s caused some positives & some negatives in my life. I won’t go into all the details let’s just say I’m a better fisher woman than I thought I’d be. My lure got a bite when I put it in the water, and it felt good to catch the fish. I know the fish wanted to be caught. I wanted the fish to desire me. But the stress came when I didn’t know what to do with them. No container to store them, so to speak. No space, no cage. Having fish– wanting having them– waiting for me to do something with them– is stressful. The fish get anxious, demanding and frantically flap their fins for attention. What I didn’t realize is that I could have just released them back into the water after catching them. No need to find storage space. Just Catch and Release”.

So go fishing, or sipping, or have a tiny bite. Remember, you can take a bite of candy and put it back. You can catch a fish; and then release it. Flirting is about being playful. Having fun. Feeling alive. When was the last time you had a good flirting?  It can all start with meeting a gaze and a smile.

Try it on.

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