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Does Your Image Really Matter?

Imagine with me for a moment. You just got the opportunity you have been waiting for.

Perhaps you are …

  • Reaching for a higher position within your company
  • Launching a new business
  • Re-launching a career that has been on hold
  • Ready to start mentoring others
  • Ready for the next chapter of your life

The only thing you need to do is meet with key individuals that can determine if this opportunity will become a reality.  On the day that you are scheduled to meet with those decision makers, you feel confident and well dressed, despite having struggled with your closet, your clothing choices, your hair and even your shoes.

The meeting goes as planned, and then nothing. No return phone calls.  No e-mails. You find out weeks later that they didn’t choose you because they said you didn’t project the right image. You are stunned that your image is negatively impacting the outcome of your dreams – it’s like the opportunity you were waiting for literally got blown away.

Before this happens to you, let’s talk about why you too, should care about your image. Clothing is a non-verbal code of communication. What you are wearing sends out a signal to others about how you feel about yourself. People then make assumptions about your personality, your competence and your social life.

The way you present yourself has a profound impact on your relationships and your career.  The old adage, “You can’t judge a book by its cover,” really only applies to books, because unfortunately you are judged by your cover, your appearance, your personal hygiene, your wardrobe, your costume.

Life is sometimes like a Broadway play. When that curtain opens on stage and the actors appear, you immediately form an opinion of them based on their wardrobe or their costume.  You don’t have the option of stripping them down to see how fabulous they may be as a person.  You formed your judgment immediately within 20 seconds. We do this everyday, in all of our personal activities and relationships.

If you’re a professional, every second counts, from the interview to the daily job, the networking, the meetings, the potential for advancement. Research indicates that people are more likely to hire, promote or do business with us if we present as polished and well put together. And your branding goes well beyond your daily garb. It needs to be consistent across all of your social platforms. That first impression lasts forever.

Let’s think about what it’s costing you not to make a change.

  • Are you being overlooked for promotions?
  • Are you not being put in positions to mentor others?
  • Are you not being taken seriously?
  • What does your overall package look like?

Quite often, the core of the problem starts with what is living in your tool shed (your closet). You may have a messy closet full of clothes and nothing to wear because what’s in there is outdated, out of style, the wrong size or maybe even the wrong character for the role you are currently playing.

You don’t know where to begin, what to toss, what to save, what to tailor, what to replace, where to go to replace it, what to replace it with, when to shop for it, and at what price point.

Making a change will be painful if you’re not equipped with any of the answers to these questions. Many people give up before even trying.

Dove:FootPostOn any given Monday morning, as you are selecting your costume for the day, you may be feel a sudden sense of overwhelm. You shut the closet door. You’ve got a meeting that you have to get dressed for.  Your black pants are at the dry cleaner – again.  It is drama and it is a waste of time.

The first step towards transformation is for you to stop thinking something is wrong with your body and realize there is something wrong with your clothing.

Let’s get to work on piecing the puzzle together and eliminating the disconnects, that are preventing you from feeling confident and well dressed.

The 4 corners in this puzzle are:
Your closet
Your clothing
Your choices
Your confidence

Your closet is filled with your clothing, which is a result of your choices, which are ultimately affecting your confidence.

PuzzleThis is a pretty powerful concept to keep in mind as you dive into your closets, assess your current wardrobes and formulate a future plan to make your appearance a priority.

By learning how to choose clothing that properly fits your shape and highlights your assets, you will discover your style. Your wardrobe will be well thought out, your closet will become a happy place, and the art of shopping will become joyful because you will be equipped with all of the right tools.

You cannot build a professional wardrobe if your tool shed is empty or you have embarked on a shopping trip without a defined list. These days we outsource everything from grocery deliveries to our finances. Most people are not born with a sense of style and 70% of people hate to shop. If you are struggling with where to begin, then begin by outsourcing your style. Hire a professional to embark on a closet edit and then a lesson to teach you how and where to shop. I make sure I cover the puzzle pieces from start to finish with my clients, empowering them with the knowledge of how to move forward with purpose. We start with what’s in their closet. We assess the clothing for fit, flattery and function. We discuss their past choices and we work on making better, more precise future choices so as not to repeat the same mistakes.

Once you conquer the understanding of fit and proportion, your confidence will soar. By embracing the principles of style you will be ready to discover how color, accessories, and fashion details can be used to accentuate your best features and help you strike the perfect balance of style and sophistication, with the ultimate goal being a well-balanced wardrobe that is time-efficient and flattering every single day, no matter what you reach in and pull out.

Need help formulating a plan to take strategic control of your image? Let’s grab 30-minutes on the phone to go over your personal plan. Don’t delay; you may need to factor in a purchase or a trip to the tailor to pull your polished look together. We’ll chat about your stage presence, your wardrobe challenges, your image and whatever else comes up! I look forward to ‘meeting’ you on the phone!

Need your own style guide?   www.ConfidenceIsAlwaysInStyle.com

In Need of Virtual  Styling?

You are among the growing number of women who are virtually outsourcing their style. Updating your image, your wardrobe and finding your authentic style is a very personal journey and you shouldn’t be limited to your local resources. That goes for both stylists and stores! Link here to get this party started with a complimentary phone consult! Virtual Styling

Doreen Dove empowers women to use style as a tool to take strategic control of their image. She is an image consultant, personal stylist, professional speaker and author. Her extensive background in all aspects of retail has uniquely qualified her to work with women of all ages and professions, coaching them to personal style success.

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