I believe that sexual arousal, passion and the energy of anticipation, when nurtured, allowed and channeled, fuels more than genital orgasm: it fuels a “creative” orgasm. I believe that sexual arousal is the “Super Power” that so many of us are simply not tapping into, and that it leads to something which I like to call “Creative Eroticism”.
Some people call “sexual arousal” an erotic charge. And that’s certainly not wrong. But I think it helps if we can identify that this feeling originates from our genitals and that it can enliven not just adult intimate interactions, but also artistic endeavors- like painting, cooking, writing, acting, gardening and even creative and business partnerships.
Do I have any research to back up my claims? We can certainly look at the documentation of the very strong and active sex lives of many geniuses, creators, leaders and entrepreneurs of the past and present. There seems to be a very strong connection between living a life of creation, and living a life filled with sexual energy. This is also why many people choose to work with people to whom they are attracted.
Lovers who work together report that they often feel more creatively alive and productive because there is an “arousal charge” that feeds their creative energy; this is “Creative Eroticism”. Almost everyone I encounter knows someone who met their lover at work, or works with their lover.
I am not alone in my thinking. More and more, sex educators are correlating our ability to feel sexually alive (arousal) with our ability to earn money. People in love create legendary works of creative expression in all of its various forms.
This is what I know to be true in my own life; when I am erotically attracted to someone, I have the energy and passion of ten women half my age. My brain fills with ideas that I can hardly wait to implement. I work faster, harder and happier. And I know from the hundreds of women that I coach and who attend my retreats, that when they learn how to turn this engine on for themselves and flood their body with arousal, they feel the renewed energy they had for a “Crush” or new relationship.
Sexual Energy (more clearly defined as “Arousal Energy”) and our “Creative Energy” are so strongly linked that they impact each other profoundly. Have you noticed that when you are not moving your sexual energy at all and feel disconnected from your body– that your zest for life goes down?
There is an interesting mix of neurochemistry that happens when we wake up our arousal. When we learn how to harness, channel and let it go – our inspiration rises in extraordinary ways.
Here are some ideas on how you can wake up your sexual energy to help channel it toward your own creative expression:
1. Get back in touch with your body. It’s literally your portal to creativity, abundance and pleasure. No matter what you think is “wrong” with your body, it craves touch and love. You do not have to depend on your partner if you have one. You can touch yourself, get a massage, or work with a practitioner.
2. Build a Pleasure Plan. Having a plan of dependable pleasure in your life will build anticipation in your life. And anticipation builds arousal, which leads to creativity and happiness! Our arousal loves to be stoked with anticipation and and yearning for what is to come. This is not magic, you can create this in your life!
3. If you can find somebody to “Crush” on; have at it. Crushes do not have to be fulfilled. And sometimes, they are best left as “muses”. But a muse or “crush” can certainly raise our arousal levels! How many love songs have been written for unrequited love?
Accessing “Creative Eroticism” in your life is something you have complete control of. Sometimes it floods in with a new lover, or muse – but most of the time we have to bring it to ourselves. Learning how to bring it, channel it and access it is not rocket science. It just takes a little commitment and a desire for more.