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sex goddessSex Goddess or Slut?…It depends on the day!

I love sending a sexy text or email, experiencing that delicious tension as I wait for his response. Wednesday afternoon, a little before 5pm, I sent “white lace.”  The reply, “Sweet Jesus” made me laugh out loud. Twenty minutes later, he was on my doorstep.

And, in that moment, this divorced 58-year-old woman felt alive, empowered, and sexy as hell. I felt like a Sex Goddess.

Actually, I am a Sex Goddess. I own it. You can too. Aren’t we all Goddesses in our own minds? If your answer is no, then we’ve got some work to do!

Having made it to the ripe age of 50 or 60 should not signify the end of sex. I’m having the best sex of my life and I want you to experience that as well.

So, who exactly is this Sex Goddess and why should you be listening?  As a divorced woman I’ve learned a lot about sex, sexuality, men and my own capacity for pleasure over the last 10 years. I’ve dated more than a few men and had a number of delightfully sexy encounters (and some woeful stories, but that’s a book waiting to be written).  I write about sexuality, women’s health and related topics on my blog, A Woman’s Page  and I’m constantly learning and expanding my knowledge about all things sexual. The rest of the time?  I’m a freelance writer, mother of two adult sons, a grandmother of two adorable little girls and an ostensibly proper Southern girl.

On any given day I might be playing the Sex Goddess or the Slut. I believe that we actively choose to embrace our sexuality. And we make individual choices as to how we express that part of our “woman-ness.” As an aside, Slut is something only I, or a special man, can call myself—it’s a new word for me, one that allows me to step out of the box and have a little more fun than usual!

Sex carries a hell of a lot of baggage for a three-letter word. People groan, cringe, deny, preach, and shut down when they hear that word. Other people get a warm, tingly feeling and think of wondrous ways to connect with a loved one. Or have a romp. Or delight in their own bodies. We think about emotions, naked bodies, the delights of a long lingering kiss, the excitement of seducing and being seduced.

Our experiences range from the naughty to the polite. We can embrace and explore our passions. We can develop a love of the sensuous and the sexual. As women over 50 we have earned the right to have the kind of sex we want, to receive and give maximum pleasure. Married, dating or single—sexuality can be a vital component in our lives.

Each week we’ll explore what sexuality means for us. I won’t compare our bodies or experiences to 30-year-olds. I won’t be beating around the bush or offering cute little “truisms.” We will be talking about our own personal sexuality, unique and ultimately a reflection of what you choose to create in your life.

What are we going to talk about? I’m going to ask you questions and invite you to ask me questions. Book reviews, Q&A’s, sex toy reviews, articles and information to help you get in touch with your sexuality, cope with sex-related issues (yours or his) and become a better lover. We’ll talk about the challenges of sex as we age as well as the delights. I might share some of my own thoughts and experiences—depending on how risqué I’m feeling at the moment.

What do you want to talk about? Leave me a comment or if you’d rather share your thoughts more intimately, email me: walker.thornton@gmail.com

Next week: Hope Springs and The Blow Job—Tips for Meryl Streep.

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