You Don’t Have to Know the Road Map
Frankly, I can’t read maps. Perhaps that’s a good thing. I’m living proof that you don’t have to be ready or know where you’re going to change your life. No one starts their journey into their Badass Babe knowing all the answers. No one is ever ready and there will never be a right time
Life Might Get Messy
Badass Babes are willing to be messy, leave in the middle and make u- turns.
Sometimes, we just need to pack up our bags, close out a dream and cradle our own broken hearts. We make mistakes, get betrayed, make a wrong turn. We have a couple of choices here. We can sit in the mess of a “near miss” and sulk for a very long time or we can get up and close the door behind us. We all have faced dreams that have not happened — that’s a part of living a life of no regrets. What’s is there really to regret? You tried, and whatever it was, it didn’t work out. Celebrate your willingness to go after your own dreams, learn what there was to learn and then move on. Yes, sometimes we land on our face in the mud. Let’s sing the song, “Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and start all over again”. Badass Babes get up and start moving again, even if we have a rip in our stocking. We learn from our mistakes and we don’t repeat them.
Pleasure Takes Time
It’s completely common for women to actually stop themselves from experiencing pleasure because it takes time and they go into self-ridicule and self-judgment mode. There is nothing like focusing on whether or not you are “taking too long” and “being selfish” or “greedy” to stop a delicious orgasm or to prevent you from savoring a delicious meal. Women sometimes take a little longer to relax, open and receive pleasure in their bodies. Orgasms can take time and the best orgasms are all about the build up. Let it happen! Aren’t you worth the time? Give yourself permission to have pleasure in your life. Badass Babes embrace the word “Greedy” and want multiple orgasms, or frankly ANY orgasm. Badass Babes encourage themselves to raise their own “Pleasure Ceiling” and make space for their lives to allow pleasure in their lives. Forget the clock. Sex doesn’t have a time limit.
Be a Revolutionary in Your Own Life.
Speak your passion, rage, love and sadness. Good girls don’t say what they need to say because they don’t want to rock the boat. The true Badass doesn’t hide anything, they stand in front. They don’t want to go to their grave with a belly ache of “I could have” or unrequited love. They don’t hide their feelings, instead they start a revolution and create change.The greatest regret of all can be the words we don’t speak. So say what you need to say: the words of love, apology, recognition and appreciation. Say it. Do it. Live it. Start the revolution.
Let Go of Your Need for Approval.
This is a really hard rule. I personally thrive on feeling accepted, loved and celebrated. Rejection stings like hell. But oh well. The Badass Babe will make a vow to herself that she is unwilling to silence herself or make herself small. If you want to live a life based on your own dreams and aspirations — you need to let go of parental, spousal or societal expectations. Will you really live your one precious life based around the fear of what others will say about you? One day, life will vanish. Imagine feeling the curtain go down around you and you never got to do what you dreamed of doing out of fear, shame or meeting someone elses expectations. We all have the power to change this way of living our lives, in this moment. Right now. Screw regrets and what your neighbor thinks about you.
You Get To Be a Pretty, Pretty Princess
If you want to feel like the “Pretty, Pretty Princess” in the room, own it. Put on the damn lipstick. Get your hair styled (maybe purple would be good?), put some color on your nails or do whatever it is that turns your pretty princess on. Pretend like you have lots and lots and lots of money, and get dressed up and sit for cocktail at a very high end hotel. Take your time and just sip. Enjoy your court. Wink at them now and again. Throw a dinner in your own honor or invite your friends to a dress up for a high tea. Announce your birthday and get the slice of cake with a rose on it. It can be really fun to get our princess on- whether that means leather or lace – do it. And then do the strut with your crown on your head and feel the wiggle in your walk. Pictures please. Lots of pictures.
You Will Not Always Like Yourself
The Badass Babe knows that sometimes she will be behave badly. Hate her reflection in the mirror (where did THAT come from?) and occasionally have attachments, not be able to meditate, stick to a diet plan, work out regularly, be patient and behave politely and nicely. We are not always “constant” and it’s good to just remember that this is really okay. Permission to be human granted. You’re a Badass Babe; not a Saint.
Forget fear. We all have it. Forget safety. That’s why we have this thing called “Courage”. None of our dreams come with a warranty. If you are looking for a warranty, stay home in that dead-end job that you hate, or stay in that unhappy relationship that feels “safe”. Badass Babes take risks and are willing to fail. We embrace change. Living a life of no regrets doesn’t mean that you won’t make wrong choices. Forgetaboutit. You will! But don’t let the fear of failure or not being happy or successful in your radical new life, hold you back from your dreams! The only fear that you should worry about is the fear of reaching the end of your life and knowing that you didn’t take the chance.
Rule # 9
Take Back Your Body
Badass Babes confront their issues with their bodies and their sexual expression because they know that they can’t truly be a Badass Babe without loving the skin they’re in. No more waiting to explore their sexual expression until they lose 20 more pounds. It’s like this: You’re not going to write a book, travel the world, quit your job, take a lover, or hike Mount Fiji “One Day”. The same goes for your own relationship with your body and your sexuality. Badass Babes that wish to live a life of no regrets understand that “one day” is the “one day” that never happens. Whatever happened to doing it now?
No More Anorexia of The Heart
Women oppress our desires with stuff. When we fill ourselves compulsively with food, or shopping or exercise, or drama, it’s basically hitting the stop button on being fully alive and fully ourselves. We allow ourselves to starve our souls until we can’t take it anymore. We are frightened of our own life force energy. The Badass Babe says screw that! “I’m hungry!” She does not deny her own desire and close her heart and body to taking in what sustains her. She rejects the constant mantra of “That should be enough.” The Badass Babe will not be shamed for wanting or needing more. She shows up for her own hunger.