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disappearing relationshipA recent story in the New York Times talked about ghosting–those times when a relationship ends because one party simply disappears without any notice.

Poof!  Gone!

Apparently, actress Charlize Theron did that to the complex-but-talented Sean Penn, which makes it Times-worthy.

NOT.  But anyway.

Here’s the story.

It reminded me of something that happened to me about a decade ago when I was single.  I was dating a guy in Florida. He was very nice, smart, interesting. He had a few secrets, I think. We were getting along famously: he’d even taken me home to meet his mother.

And then: radio silence.  Nothing.

Here’s the funny thing: I barely noticed.   That’s because I’d met someone else and was quite involved in that relationship.

Years later I ran across my “ghost.”

“So,” I said, “I’ve always wondered why you disappeared without a trace.”

“Well,” he said, “do you really want to know?”

“I do,” I said.

“To be honest, I thought you weren’t really a biological female.”

That’s right. He thought I was transgendered.

No joke.  I laughed anyway.

“Well, I promise you that I have always been a biological female,” I said. “Why on earth did you think I wasn’t?”

“You had so many gay friends…” he trailed off.

Uh huh.

Ghosting in Florida. Always completely logical.

So, have you ever been ghosted? Or ghosted anyone? Tell us about it.

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