In today’s age of modern technology when your possible one true love is just a swipe right on Tinder away, finding a boyfriend or a girlfriend has never been this easy. OK Cupid, Tinder, and other dating apps have afforded us the convenience and possibility to find and meet similar minded people in hopes that they can be our special someone.
But single is never synonymous to being lonely. When these apps are down and the people we have met turn out differently, we get tired of the seemingly endless series of bad dates. Perhaps what we actually need is to pamper ourselves and focus on what is more important. When you are single, a lot of simple things can make you stay happy without the need to find it from other people. We have prepared a simple list on how you can stay happy when you are single and we hope this helps you as much as it has helped us.
More Time For Yourself — Not having to share your time with someone else gives you the freedom to do just about anything you have always wanted to do. Go out and dine for one. Go to the movies — cry, laugh, and do not mind the other people. Travel a lot and meet new people, not for romantic purposes, but to expand your network. Get them to tell you about their life and learn from them. There is nothing more satisfying than to hear life lessons from strangers. Have you always wanted to write a book? Bring out your laptop while facing the calm blue sea and start writing away.
Spend Time With Your Family and Friends – Spend time with more important people in your life. Your friends who you do not get to see when you have a boyfriend or a girlfriend are surely dying to hear what have you been up to. Pay them a visit, bring snacks, and catch up over popcorns and wine. Laugh as hard as you can because you do not have to pretend to be anyone other than yourself when surrounded by friends. Visit your family too. Take them out to dinner.
Embrace Your Single-hood – Since you are already single, you no longer have to deal with your ex’s annoying habits. There will be no more fights over the remote or your ex’s snoring that made you lose countless hours of sleep. The only annoying habits that you can take care of are your own. You will have time for yourself to re-evaluate the paths you would like to take and, if needed, create another. There will be times when confusion arises, and when that time comes, you can either go out on a retreat or talk to an online psychic for a little guidance.
Be An Improved You – Focus on yourself and be the better version of yourself. Learn new skills, or improve what you are already good at. This way, when a new prospect comes, you will feel good about yourself because of the changes you have made, not for anyone, but for yourself.
Let Go Of The Past – There is no real moving on if you still cling on to those text messages or your ex’s old photos. Get rid of the baggage that tie you down in the past and learn to accept that it happened for a reason. Be happy in the present and love yourself. Only by loving yourself will you find your one true love because you are giving them a reason to love you.
Do Not Get Jealous – Should you find yourself at the mall and find many couples – happy and smiling with hands held tight – do not roll your eyes and get red with jealousy. Accept and understand that timing is everything, and while they have found themselves the love they have been looking for, your time, too, will come. Sit back and relax, drink your latte in your favorite Starbucks with judging those happy couples. Because there was a time when it was you whom every single person was staring at.
Control Your Spending – Since you no longer have to spend for those dates, you have full financial control now that you are single. Tighten your grip and avoid buying stuff that you do not need. Save up and watch your bank account flourish. When your bank account saving is happy, for sure, you too will.
Sharp Body, Sharp Mind – Work that body out. Get a gym membership and sweat out. An active body is a healthy mind. It can also be in the form of jogging, or getting your friends to play badminton with you on a regular basis. No matter what fits your lifestyle, budget, and schedule, the most important thing is to keep moving.
Try Something New – Have you always wanted to dye your hair red or curl it? Now is the perfect time to experiment on how you look since no one is there to say no. Try something different. If you want to cut your hair short, who’s to say no and who is there to remember? If you do not like how it turned out, well, that is what hats are for.
Set Zero Expectations – If the time comes when you feel that you are ready to get back to the dating scene and wish to meet new people, do not set unrealistic expectations. In fact, set no expectations, period. Think of dating as a new adventure. Learn everything about your date without seeing him as a potential next boyfriend or girlfriend. As long as you are happy being with him or him, then see them as much as possible. From there, take it slow and you will be surprised how it will turn out.
Sure, getting a date on Tinder is easy, but what about the guy from the coffee shop that you go to, or the girl that you keep on bumping into on the elevator on your way to work? Whatever happened to the reckless and the brave “Can I get your number?” or “You look really interesting, can I take you to dinner sometimes?” Real magic happens in real life. And your time is just around the corner.